It Counts to Try
It's wonderful to be emboldened by the concept of how much it counts to try. I've had a version of the following Brene Brown quote on my refrigerator for years, it's a reminder that you're not wrong for speaking your truth even if it's met with resistance. You're not wrong for loving transparently whether or not it's returned. And you're certainly not wrong for authentically creating even if no one seems interested in what you made. (Yet.) Doing it anyway means you're courageous.
"The root of the word courage is cor—the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage had a very different definition than it does today. Courage originally meant 'To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.' Over time, this definition has changed, and, today, courage is more synonymous with being heroic. We certainly need heroes, but I think we’ve lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we’re feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage. Heroics is often about putting our life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line. In today’s world, that’s pretty extraordinary." -Brene Brown
I'm not kidding when I say that I've read that almost every morning while making breakfast for years. I initially read it in a magazine and ripped it out. The scrap has lived in my home(s) ever since. I think there are a lot of different ways that you can pull meaning from that which is what makes it so interesting.
Often times when we do something vulnerable we regret it based on how other people respond to us. We feel silly or much worse, and wish we could we go back and not express whatever sentiment it was that made us feel shame. But when we're being authentic the last thing we should be moved to do is take back our words or feelings. Those are the tools that we have to express who we are, so shutting them down can mean shutting ourselves out. The truth is that it doesn't really matter how people respond when our intentions to express ourselves are truthful and coming from a place of kind awareness.
It's the bravest thing in the world to be able to be yourself without wavering in an ever changing climate. People don't have to listen for your words to mean something. You grow by creating them. You don't have to feel sad for loving people that you can't or won't be with. Love is a force and the love that you honor in your heart is more powerful than anything that anyone else could offer you. You don't have to get a yes the first time you offer your services to the world. No innovator or creative visionary has ever been supported around the clock. The people who make the biggest differences, whether it's coming up with the next big thing or being the best friend ever, those people are simply committed. They're committed to who they are, what they stand for, and to staying in their power because it feels right. Things work out for passionately committed people because they try, and they try again. It can be hard yeah, that's why it requires courage. But it's so worth. Might as well be a hero if you can.