"Becoming selfish is the most selfless thing I’ve ever done."
There is an overarching notion that selfishness is tied to narcissism, a vanity we cheer on but are ashamed to emanate the same behaviors of. Shame masks jealousy when we see someone truly putting themselves first. What is the spiritual basis behind being selfish, and how does being selfish open up the key to any thing in life, whether that be spiritual growth, self-awareness, and contributing benefit to the global community and leaving a legacy?
When we put ourselves first, we, at some level, are affirming that we are in control of ourselves, and that we are responsible for ourselves. Being responsible for ourselves empowers us, and the practice of self-responsibility spawns confidence in one’s life and life choices. Learning to love ourselves builds the foundation for a happy life, and for a plethora of quality life experiences.
As we get to know who we are, and learn to love who we are, and the amiability of who we think we are (as our changing belief forms are molded by our will, or lack of), we become aware that the quality of all relationships and life experience is based upon how deeply we can love ourselves first. “I attract what I am”. Let that sink in.
Spend time healing your soul, wrapping your arms around your insecurities, and give yourself the ear, the care, the love that you deserve. You deserve as much as you can muster. What would it take to love your ugly? Sometimes we need to see our monsters in the light of truth, exposing them as insecurities that seek more love, so that we may understand and grow compassion. Healing the cracks of our character become the authentic expressions of our personality.
Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold. Let your newfound self-care become the gold that brings together your broken pieces, and undergo a transformation that brings about the beautiful you that you’ve never seen before. Become a whole being, and integrate all your pieces into one cohesive council under the direction of your Will.